In March of 2013 Michael and Kayleen joined FarmersOnly.com as users Semog1994 and Cwbyandangl. They exchanged messages for about a week on the site before they decided to meet face to face. Their story, like so many others from the site, leads to a very happy ending.
Michael and Kayleen were featured in The Fresno Bee. You can read all about their story here: The Fresno Bee: Michael & Kayleen
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For some of you this may be your first go round for harvest....Well, gear up because this may be a bumpy ride that you may find a little hard to understand at times!
If the farmer you meet on FarmersOnly is anything like my my farmer you may find yourself staring at a very closed off conversation at first.
And what I mean by that...
The first conversation I had with my farmer after sending that first message went a little like this:
Me: "How was your day today?"
Me: "What did you do?"
Me: "Anything Else?"
Really!? I mean where in the world was I supposed to go with that?
After about five very direct answers, and no reciprocation, I thought of the idea- I'll ask ten, you ask ten.
Basically what we did was I sent ten questions, he answered them a long with sending me ten back.
It may seem a little too simple, but in the beginning when you aren't really sure you are ready to give out your cell number, or meet in person, it really is the perfect place to start.
Because of these questions my farmer really opened up to me about tons of topics- and he actually got pretty good at typing too!
It's amazing how much you can learn about a person when you ask them ten questions every other day.
We talked quite a bit once we established this pattern because we were both excited to see one another's answers.
Don't be afraid to make them think outside the box either!
I asked everything from favorite color to greatest fears, dream vacations, and even what he thought the best qualities of his parents were. Music, strengths, weaknesses, ideal dates...
The thing about asking questions through the computer is that after awhile all walls seem to come down.
By the first time I met my husband on the exit ramp down the road from our home I felt like I knew every single part of him and being in his arms felt just right.
So, if you find yourself unsure of where to take the conversation I suggest the "I'll ask ten, you ask ten" method. And don't just ask the serious questions, ask silly questions. Ask what they love, what they hate. What they do on a Sunday afternoon off. Their favorite TV shows.
After weeks of only talking to my farmer this way- I really, truly felt like I knew him better than some of my closest friends.
Not to mention that if you talk and you learn to ask questions it's a habit that will continue through your relationship.
After 5 years of being together I still find us playing the "I'll ask ten, you ask ten" on long road trips.
And it's amazing after 5 years what you can still learn about one another!
By the end of the summer around here we are typically finishing up odds and ends on the farm, around our home, and planning the last of our date nights for the next couple of months.
I have learned in my 5 years on the farm to take advantage of EVERY opportunity to be together, or else you will go awhile before you are together. It may mean sitting in a bumpy tractor for the day reading off and on, picking up rocks, and getting some good quality conversation in between.
It may mean riding in the semi at 4 A.M. eight months pregnant just to spend some time with your hubby.
It may mean taking silly pictures in the tractor at midnight while you wait for the last few loads of silage, because you only have a few to go before you are done.
Flexibility and I haven't always been friends.
But, I have learned to be flexible.
Some of the best memories I have of me and my farmer are during those long nights in the tractor taking funny photos, cleaning grain bins, driving around checking fields, and even a sushi date every now and then.
It may be hard to be flexible at times, but I think you will find, just as I did, that sometimes the best memories come from those times of being willing to add some flexibility in your schedule.