What I Have Learned Being A Farmer's Wife

When I first married my farmer I don't think I ever fully realized how the past I had before him would be so helpful in my future with him.

I have always been involved in the Ag industry. It started with 4-H and showing horses and sheep and then moved on to FFA when I was in high school. And then everything just flowed naturally to college. It felt perfect for me to head to Purdue University and pursue a degree in Agricultural Education.

I was completely involved in everything I could be that involved agriculture. Then I met my farmer and moved to the farm. And I everything I had "learned" was now something I could apply every day. And for once I felt like my past, my present in education, and my future with my farmer came full circle.

And every day I find myself using all my skills and knowledge from my past to apply them to what is going on on our farm. But, there have also been quite a few things I have learned. Ok, may a whole lot of things.

1. Timing is everything. On our farm the livestock have to come first. And that is a concept I get, for sure. But, one thing I didn't really grasp right away was the timing of the crops. My hubby tells me stories of combining through the night to finish the last field before an early ice storm came in. And I have stayed in the grain cart until well past midnight to try and get as much done as possible before we were going to have a full day of rain. And sometimes the timing isn't perfect. Sometimes cattle get out right when you are walking out the door on your first date in a month.

2. Learn how to do it all, if you want it done soon. My husband and I always seem to have a list of projects that we want to do around the house. Well, ok, maybe my list is a lot longer than his. And since the farm pretty much gets all our time, you can probably get that our home projects are always done last. Luckily, I have a degree in Agricultural Education, which means I took a lot of classes in relation to agriculture. And shop classes, mechanics, electricity, and welding, are all classes that I have taken and being able to have that knowledge is pretty handy. So having the knowledge of power tools is super helpful, especially when I am dying to build and hang shelves downstairs in our basement.

3. Dinner or lunch will rarely ever happen on time. So, be prepared to reheat or keep warm.

4. Dinner will also almost always be requested to be in the field about ten minutes before the noon hour and you have already laid out spaghetti on the table. So, having a back up in the freezer is ideal. Hamburgers work great.

Delivering lunch to the field.

5. When you are asked to help for just a little bit be sure to pack a bag. With water, a snack, toddler toys, bottles, sippy cups, diapers, wipes, and pretty much anything else you can think of that you might need for at least half a day. I can't tell you how many times I have been asked to help for a little bit, only to end up being at the farm the rest of the day and night. Which is fine if it's just me. But, when you add a little one in the mix you always have to have a bag ready.

6. During harvest or planting pretty much plan on doing it all. Sometimes I already feel like I do it all around our house. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, yard work, maintenance, painting, small repairs, but during the fall and the spring it's pretty much essential to know you are on your own. And that means wrangling your child everywhere you need to be. When Ellie was a baby I took her to a few different Ag related events that I needed to be at. She has sat quietly sleeping in her car seat during business meetings I have had or conference calls. It's imperative to be prepared for those seasons!

Having a meeting at South Dakota Soybean with my crawler.

I have learned so much being a farmer's wife. But, more than that I feel like I have truly contributed. I have good ideas and I really value that my hubby listens to my ideas and respects them. And even more importantly, I have learned that as a farmer's wife I am always, always learning. Every day is a new adventure and I learn something new about our farm and why we do things a certain way nearly every week.

My advice to any future farm wives...Always keep learning and always keep asking questions!

The New Year Bliss

It's the start of a new year. In case you missed it, of course!

It seems every time the new year rolls around a whole new feeling is in our home.

The chance to start something fresh, set new goals, changing over files, and a new tax year. I always feel so refreshed at the start of the new year. I often say to myself "This is the year I do...."

Then, a few weeks later the new year bliss is over. I find myself falling back into the same old ways, and those dreams of drinking less coke are way behind me already.

Now, before I married my farmer I was a goal setter. Every single week I would have a list of things I wanted to get accomplished. Listed in their order of importance. And often times color coded.

Well, a farmer's life isn't color coded. So, after a year of being married to one, I found myself listing less and less goals in my coveted Franklin Covey planner. I found myself not planning over two weeks in advance, when I very easily had a month ahead always planned before. I found myself adjusting my life to fit into the farm life schedule.

And I made it work. I still color code, but instead I use a planner that sits on our counter. So my farmer always knows what is going on. And I keep the same planner, in a smaller version in my purse. Instead of listing goals every week in my planner and numbering them off I now use a post-it note system. That I really do love. And amazingly, so does my farmer.

 Now that the new year is here. I have our new calendar all set up, highlighted and all, with meetings, birthdays, and travel dates.

I have really been thinking about the whole idea of what "goals" I want to set for the new year. And I have decided this year I won't.

Lots of people set goals like weight loss, eat better, call family more, get organized. Well, I know I need to work out more. I typically do my best to have a well balanced meal. And my husband will agree to that. My policy of at least two vegetables sometimes drives him nuts! And I am the most organized person I know.

I think the pressure of setting new goals at the new year is a bit much. Instead I have decided that setting goals every week by writing them on my post it notes works for me and my family. I am already a goal seeking person naturally, it's just to me about choosing where I want to dedicate my time, where my passions are...

Maybe that's the key. Instead of setting a goal of something I am going to resolve I will not set a goal and continue to seek passion in my everyday life.

Happy New Year, resolutions and all. And if you find yourself slipping I think that's okay. Instead of seeking the goal, instead seek passion and embrace life!