Trust to me is one of the biggest parts of a relationship. And being married to a farmer that is gone a lot means that trust is pretty vital to the relationship.
I know I love gifts, but it isn't just what I need to maintain our relationship.
If your love language is Receiving Gifts it's safe to say you love getting gifts and you do not forget special occasions.
Anniversaries..Birthdays..these are days you won't forget. And you expect your loved ones to remember them too!
You might appreciate when your farmer heads to town and brings you home something a little special. Whether it's a milkshake or a movie, it's a little something to show you how much they care.
Now, I have went to town and brought my husband things. Like his favorite candy, a new work shirt, new socks even, and I don't get much of a reaction. I get a thank you and a smile. Now, when Christmas rolls around I always get him one gift that I know he really, really wants. It's normally a big one and most likely an expensive tool. I spend all year listening to him and saving money without him knowing so I can buy him whatever it is he has talked about the most. When he opens that gift on Christmas he normally gets really excited. The first year we were married and I bought him a DeWault Miter Saw I thought he was going to die of shock.
He might forget that I do have a degree in Agricultural Education and I do have to teach shop, so I do know my tools...but I also know my man and am real good at observing him in stores and jotting down various notes later that night in my prayer journal (so I know he won't accidentally see them!).
If your significant other loves receiving gifts, forgetting your anniversary will break their heart. Even if it's something as simple as pulling a few wildflowers on your way into the house from a long day in the field. They will love it. My husband brings me rocks. Because he knows I think they are neat and I despise planting flowers around our landscape only to have our two dogs destroy it. So, when he digs up rocks in a field he keep a pile somewhere and when we have a spare moment he drives me by the pile and asks if there are any I would like.
Even the smallest, most inexpensive gifts are still gifts. Still thoughtful and still require an act of love.
If you haven't heard the phrase "you complete me" used once or twice I feel like you must be living without technology..And since you are on this blog I am guessing that is also not likely!
I remember growing up and having high school romances and my friends and I over-using the phrase "he completes me".
If you do a quick google search you will find music, images, poems, magazine articles, and let's not forget the infamous line being use in the movie starring Tom Cruise, Jerry Maguire.
I think once I got into college and really started thinking about where I wanted to be in my future, and more importantly who I wanted to share my future with, my thoughts slowly changed.
When I think of completion I think of a finished product. I think of being whole. I think of Jerry Maquire.
I then think of my marriage. I never want my marriage to be completely finished. I always want to be changing, evolving, growing.
I don't think I want someone to "complete" who I am as a person. I think of "you complete me" as in "I can't live without you because you complete me".
I may not want my husband to complete me. But, I do want him to compliment me. I want us to each have our strengths, our weaknesses, our own talents. And come together to strengthen one another. The yin and yang of life.
However, one could look at it like I was a complete person then I met my husband and now my life feels incomplete without him. Which is somewhat true.
I feel like I will never be complete, I will always be striving to be a better person, a loving wife, a great mother. I will change over time. My passions in life may change, my goals, my priorities. However, my life wouldn't be the same if I wasn't growing, changing, and evolving with my husband together.
I complete myself. And we compliment each other. I want to continue to grow and evolve as a person and I want to continue to grow and evolve in my relationship.
I think this is another favorite part of our marriage, my husband lets me grow and change as I need. And because of that we continue to strengthen our marriage every single day.