Wedding Planning With Your Farmer

Now that you have selected the PERFECT time of year for your wedding, you now have to look at all the planning that goes into it. 

And, you definitely want to make sure your wedding is "farmer friendly" too. Keep in mind that you may have selected the perfect time of year for your wedding, however, the months before the wedding may be a busy season. 

If you remember, my farmer and I were engaged in July and married in November. That means that we had just about 3ish months to plan. And most of that was going to be smack in the middle of Harvest.

Once my husband and I selected the location, the details were left up to me. 

I would have been just fine with a big BBQ thrown at our shop, but my husband wanted a nice supper and a wedding dance to remember. 

I wasn't too picky on decorations or colors, but my husband had the idea of using the kids' tractors as part of the centerpieces and I loved it. I added in some various glass vases, some Fall foliage and it fit us perfectly.

 I have a really beautiful sapphire engagement ring, passed down from my mother. But, when I chose the ring I would wear everyday I chose a unique band with diamonds. No sense in wearing a 3 carat diamond around on the farm everyday. 

Instead of sand we poured two types of corn

We were married in the church we now attend on Sundays.

I was pretty easy going about what dresses my bridesmaids chose. Half of them switched to their boots by the end of the evening. All of our men in the wedding party wore black wranglers. And I may have climbed our combine ladder in my very white dress. 

Don't be afraid to pull details from the life you are going to have with your farmer. My husband enjoyed hearing the details and adding his own thoughts here and there from the seat of the tractor.

Planning a wedding is so much fun, but I think it's even more fun when you are marrying a farmer!

Marrying Your Farmer?

Is there ever a perfect time for a farmer to get married?

Honestly, I'm not really sure. But, there is always the chance of picking the perfect time of year for your farmer.

For example. If you are marrying a rancher, who mainly has cows that are having calves from February to June, you probably shouldn't pick one of those months.

If you are dating strictly a crop farmer, you probably shouldn't pick planting season (April) or harvest season (anywhere from September to November).

We don't make a whole lot of square bales anymore, but haying during summer is still pretty busy whether it's square bales or round bales. 

If you are marrying a farmer that has his hands into a couple of different things. Like crops and cattle, like me, pray for a really perfect year and pick a day.

My husband and I were engaged in July and we were married that November. We had to work around numerous this. Snow, for example. In South Dakota it blizzards something fierce and not only would snow deter our guests, but it would also keep my hubby focused on moving a lot of snow from our cattle feed yards in order to feed cattle. This took out December to March. We plant crops, so planting season, that takes our April. And harvest season, end of August to October for us. We always set the goal to be done by October 31st and in the five years I have been here we have only one time not made the deadline, the year we got married. Go figure.

Tarping our corn silage pile this Fall. 

My husband didn't initially want to get married in November. And I understand, but we both agreed summer was just too busy with weddings already and it's hot. So, we quickly cut out all other months of the year.

And, personally I have enjoyed three years of having our anniversary, soon four, on November 7. It's actually pretty perfect. Dating during harvest is already terrible, and we are busy, and we don't spend hardly any time together. Since we are normally done by October 31, what a better way to spend our anniversary than celebrating the end of harvest and another year of wedded bliss?

So, when thinking about what day you want to be special for you the rest of your life, choose wisely and be conscious of what season it is on the farm because your farmer may take time for your wedding, but he probably won't promise to take time for your anniversary in years to follow!